90 days of games {day 10}

 

Today I was able to squeeze in some game time with Elliott, while Hayden was at basketball practice!  Of course, Jack wanted in on the fun too!  He especially wanted to take away the pigs  ❤

I love this kid so much.  Elliott is so much like me.  It’s funny, but I always expected my daughter to be like me, since she is a girl and all, but every time I step back and just consider my son, and appreciate him for who he is, I see so much of myself in him.  He cares so much about making sure I am ok, and his sensitive nature just pulls at my heart strings.  Also, he is great at cleaning the bathrooms and foot rubs.  Someday he will make someone very happy  🙂

2017 goal board

I know I’m late posting this!  It’s already the middle of February for goodness sake, but, I wanted to share anyway because I am all about accountability!  I don’t believe in setting goals and then just keeping them to yourself!  I want to have my goals out there so that next year, February 2018, I can come back here and say, “Ok, Ann, how did you do?”  What do you need to keep working on, and what did you accomplish!

 

So, I am all about vision boards.  I first started by just making one on Pinterest, then I decided that wasn’t enough.  I printed off some of my favorite quotes and made a board that I could put right in front of my desk to look at every day.

The point of actually having a board is to see your goals ALL THE TIME.  If they are right in front of you, and you are focusing on them daily you are much more likely to actually achieve them!

My main goals for the year:

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What are your goals?  Do you have a dream/vision board?

Being OK

You know what I struggle with?   Being ok with who I am,  and who God made me.   I am loud, obnoxious, I get super excited and interrupt way to much,  sometimes bossy,  way too silly,  constantly losing the same 10 (fine, 20) lbs over and over, SUPER DEFENSIVE,  stubborn, control freak, I hold grudges, and I have a hard time forgiving.   I’m sure there’s more,  but the point of this is not about putting myself down.


Last summer, at Gold Retreat I had a night of insecurities.  I actually sat in my room and cried because I just feel so inadequate so many times.  I share this with you so that if you ever have the same feelings you can know you are NOT ALONE.  I personally believe it is a spiritual battle.  Does satan want me thriving in my business? NO.  Does he want me feeling confident and excited and happy?  NO.  He is MY ENEMY and will do anything to make sure I feel lost and alone.  


What I have to remind myself is this:  I will absolutely never ever be able to please everyone.   There will be people that come into my life,  especially in this business,  who are annoyed by me,  or actually,  just hate me,  and I cannot let that knowledge control my behavior.   I absolutely have to be ok with being me,  and being the best me.


Now,  don’t get me wrong,  I ABSOLUTELY 100% believe in growing,  and changing and personal development.   If I was the same today at 36 that I was at 26….well,  just shoot me now.  But I’m not,  I can look back and see so much growth,  and when I’m 46 I’ll do the same again!   


 

The point I’m trying to make is that I have to be ok with who I am.   Of course I am going to work on the forgiveness thing,  and the holding grudges thing. …but my positive attitude?   That’s staying!   My perkiness, sassiness, cheerful outlook.  Not going anywhere.   The ability to see the good in people and give them the benefit of the doubt. …big fan of that!   All these things make me who I am,  and even if they bother some people I DON’T CARE.

 

I had a teacher in college who would go around the room and give us a compliment at the beginning of every class and we had to say “thank you”  then we had to say something we liked about ourselves.

 

Her lesson was that it’s rude to make excuses when people pay you a compliment and basically you are calling them a liar! We have to be ok with saying the things we like about ourselves, and hearing the things that others see!

 

I’d LOVE for you all to list 3 things you love about yourself and comment below!  Then, respond to each other and encourage each other!  Tell someone else the character trait in her that stand out to you!  

90 days of games {day 9}

 

Feels crazy that we’ve only made it to day 9, I do believe that if I don’t give up this will for sure get easier.

Super happy that Grandma brought us some new games!  I realized that if I am going to really pull this off, I am going to need some variety.  We can’t just play the same 4 games over and over for 90 days!!!  LCR was fun!  I can tell this would be a game that dad would enjoy too!

I love these kids.  I love our not perfect family, and the fact that we are all doing the work to make this family better.  I also know that I can’t do anything without my relationship with Jesus.  I try so hard to do everything on my own, and control it all, and even with my kids, I forget that I just need to surrender to HIM and he will make a beautiful life out of the mess that I have made.

 

“Her children arise and call her blessed;  her husband also, and he praises her.”  Proverbs 31:28

Making Time for Marriage

Guys, I know, like REALLY KNOW that I am not the only one who thinks marriage is really hard.  THE HARDEST THING EVER.  Jim and I have been married 13 1/2 years and will celebrate number 14 on November 1, 2017.  So when I say I know that marriage is hard, I really really do.

We actually made it through some really rough and trying times back when our now 10 and 12 year olds were babies, and little naive me thought it would be smooth sailing from there…but, fun thing, we ended up adding a new baby to the mix 2 years ago, and all those old issues (well, not all…we have definitely improved) seemed to resurface.  They were always there, they just weren’t so prominent and shoved in our faces without a baby to awaken them!

So, it’s been a struggle, we need to work on communicating better, and spending quality time together and as a family.  For me, I don’t want to be just ok with “ok”  I want something greater, and amazing and wonderful for our family.  I don’t want to just muddle through life.

I don’t want to just GET THROUGH this stage with Jack and then go back to complacency.  I would hope that this is our opportunity to make some really great improvements!

So, we’ve been taking some baby steps to make our marriage better, and, in honor of Valentine’s Day, (yes, I know, worst holiday ever) I thought I would share them with you.

  1.  Everyday, I make the bed, and while I am making it I pray deeply for our marriage.  I find myself tearing up almost every time, because, after 13 years of marriage this is the hardest I have ever prayed for Jim.
  2. We both share an audible app.  I subscribe for $15/month and we purchase a marriage book each month to listen to.   He listens to it on his drive to work, and I listen to it while running on the treadmill.  Even after one day, I felt a shift in our marriage.
  3. I am also listening to a book specifically for women called, “A Woman After God’s Own Heart.” and I truly, try to just remember that I am a child of God and my heart should be to serve the Lord.  This book may be a little extreme for some of you, but, it’s great to glean from it what you find to apply to your life.
  4. Something else I have done in the past, is to complete The Husband Project with a group of friends.  This is a secret project that encourages you and gives you ideas for one thing a day you can do for your husband.  I REALLY love this book and I have done it several times.  Every time I do it I notice a huge shift in our marriage.
  5. Cutting back.  I am a chronic Yes Girl.  It’s awful.  I say “yes” to everything because I hate letting people down.  I found myself gone every night of the week doing “good” things, while my family was falling apart.  This is probably a topic for an entirely different blog post, but I have decided that I cannot say “yes”  if it is not, “HELL, YES.”

I hope that you are able to find a tip that you can incorporate into your own marriage!  I know there are so many ideas out there and I really try to keep my ideas simple and practical!

What is something you have found really makes a difference in your marriage?

FAST

Do you get tired of constantly dieting and want some real encouragement, inspiration, and focus for your weight loss journey?  I cannot even talk enough about what I have been doing for the last month.


The program is called FAST and you can get information about it at Meanestmanindieting.com.  I’m on my way to actually achieving my goal and maintaining it for the first time in my life.  I am tracking my food, and making really good choices.  It’s not rocket science, it’s not a magic pill, but the program is insanely wonderful.

You really just have to go check it out.  There’s a money back guarantee if you don’t like it, so what do you have to lose!

When you sign up put my name in under the referrals!  That would be awesome!


I have gone from running intervals 3 miles in 50 minutes to 3 miles in 38 minutes. I have lost 10 lbs, and I have MOMENTUM that I refuse to lose!  Even on days when I am emotional, or struggling, I remember everything they taught us.

YOU WILL NEVER EVER EVER experience accountability like this ever in your life!

❤ ❤ ❤